No!
Then who?
I’m going to be quiet about who it is for now because I love her and I don’t want this to push us apart. Having said that, if people want to make double-sided comments, I have no problem separating myself from them.
“Hi Darling it was a joy to find your letter it made me happy.”
It was a joy for me as well. 
“I enjoy the outdoors, movies and walking is good for the health.”
I’m sensing a connection!
“I was not married or have children.”
How convenient. With this woman you can have alone time. 
“Happy to know you have a good job.”
You fuck her and you will need a good job because I will take my half and half of your half. 
“I live and work at Nizhniy Novgorod which is on the river Volga in Russia.”
Yeah, I Iiked this “work” part too. This alone makes her significant. 
“Am Russian white with green eyes and blonde hair, do you like pets?
She sounds hot! You should ask for a photo. 
“I too am looking for a long term relationship.”
Just don’t tell her you are seeking faithfulness because as we both know, only one of us have been faithful in our 30 years and it wasn’t you. 
“I’ll always be genuine with you.”
Damnit! She’s already showing signs of faithfulness.
“I’ll leave it for now.”
“look forward to your message.”
Me too, Honey!
“All the best my dear.”
“Svetonka”
I was just working on the books when this message came in. I’m not jealous about it. I’d kind of like to meet her. 
I’ve seen how hard you have tried to correct a couple of things in our marriage. Unfortunately, you work 2 weeks and when you come home we babysit much of that time. What kind of relationship can we possibly have when we get very little alone time. So in a 30 day period, I’m guessing we get maybe 5 full days alone. And rarely more than 2 back to back. You may not need more than that but after 30 years of being alone more than half the time, I do.
I met these people playing chess in 1998. When MSN shut down the chess site, Reg created BBAD so that everyone could stay in touch.
Up until a year ago, it was all politics and religion here. I’ve known them 20 years and never met even one person. I am only human and I have thought about something different but I’ve never carried out any thoughts. (That is more than I can say for you)
Having said that, I have thought about inviting them into our home because I do want to meet them all. Perhaps Svetonka could join us.
I realize this goes against your private nature but if that blabber mouthed sister of yours can’t keep a secret, neither will I.
I love you, Dusty❣️ I’m not willing to dump our marriage over this but I can’t fight for something you don’t want too. You don’t have to stay because of your mom and Joe. I won’t abandon them. With that out of the way, it comes down to money and love. If you are worried I’ll take everything, I wouldn’t do that to you (unless you fuck her) but I have to think of myself if you leave because I am accustomed to the lifestyle you have created for me.
You asked me a question 30 years ago that I couldn’t answer. I can tell you now, you made me feel safe. I’m sorry I couldn’t answer you then.
I do seek 30 more years with you because your are the very best part of me. I am grateful for the life you have given me and the sacrifices you have made and do make for us.
I love you, Dusty💞
Wife
Is this for real? You really found this message sent to your husband? If so, I really like the way you’re handling it.
I don’t know a guy in the world that hasn’t browsed the Russian singles ads at least a few times. It almost never amounts to anything, sort of like browsing expensive cars or yachts online.
That said, being caught shouldn’t be painless and you’ve inflicted the right amount of pain with this public shaming. I also really like that you’re not looking to throw away 30 years of marriage over it.
Keep in mind, Svetonka is almost certainly a fat 50 year old Russian guy who has 50 horny Americans on the go and who is trying to time it correctly to ask for money for plane fare. $3000 should do it.
Good luck, Michele. Much respect for not overreacting.
Reg
You will forgive me if I don’t fall for that, hook, line and sinker.
I hope Dusty doesn’t either.
He might. The email address indicates it’s a woman with an American name in the United States.
Have you confronted him aside from your post here?
No.
Catfishing?
Do you plan to confront him?
Of sorts!
Absolutely not! If we are breaking up, I have every intention of doing it over the phone. Because, you know, I don’t want him to see me cry.
Then assuming he doesn’t frequent BBAD, he has no idea you know?
I believe he knows.
I just read this (as well as the thread). And it leaves me even more surprised, than all your prior posts combined. What you described here, is exactly a feminists point. And yet you fight the hands which want to help you.
I am not a feminist and I don’t know what you are talking about, as usual.
Michele may not be perfect but there’s no reason to accuse her of the mental illness of feminism.
You criticise that your hubby disadvantages his daughter over his son and that your work as a mother and housewife isn’t seen and valued as an equal to the job of your hubby. You did everything to finance her a good college education because of this. That‘s EXACTLY what feminism is about. Not that insane nonsense of definition you and Reggie are phantasizing about. Look up the definition in Merriam Webster instead of blindly believing (religious) nuts.
I’m not looking to be Dusty’s equal. I’m just looking for a way to get out of doing the dishes.