No, Gunda, you don’t get a vote. Every “democratic country worth the name”, including Canada, Germany, the Netherlands, the US and Australia, has decided that two adults choosing to marry may make their own decisions about how to split their money. Every single one of those countries accepts and enforces prenuptial agreements, where the two parties agree on how money will be split. You don’t get a vote, I don’t get a vote, and nobody other than the people getting married get a vote.
All you get to do is heckle from the sidelines about something you’ve never experienced.
You really should try to find a man to marry, Gunda. Life is way better when you’re not doing it alone.
Last time I checked, the laws (including the marital law) are made by politicians which are still elected (more or less democratic) by the citizens of any democratic country. So, I very well have a vote. And as I also agree in that sometimes prenuptials make sense for a pair, I don’t mind if a pair chooses to do so. The question is (and this I judge), when a prenuptial or even the legal standard is just and not significantly disadvantaging one partner, especially if that one stays at home or reduces work to take care for the family. And there are two main financial (and also moral) criterias in my opinion, which make such a treaty not fair but exploitative:
• If one partner has the legal and/or practical say on expenses, only because he/she is the main breadwinner/or belongs to a certain gender. Which reduces one partner to a mere beggar. That’s not a marriage worth the name. That’s a marriage scums like Trump or Talibans consider a good deal. I give you that.
• If one partner faces the main financial risk to end up on welfare eventually in case marriage fails.
Tell me Reggie, what exactly do you criticize here?
What do I criticize? I don’t see how I can be more clear. I criticize an unmarried woman, who has never been married or even in a relationship of more than a few years, and who shows no signs of any particular financial success, telling those of us who are happily married for over a decade and have planned our estates well, how to arrange our marriages and our finances. This advice is unsolicited, misguided, and anyone with even a shred of social decency would see how graceless it is for you to offer it.
You should try to find a guy to marry, Gunda. Life is way better when you’re not doing it alone.
Oh I see, lol. Then I guess you consequently and finally will stop bitching about low birthrates, as you are childless and also stop talking about anything, which doesn’t apply to yourself.
Stop being that ridiculous and hypocritical, Reggie.
Marriage (and non-married partnerships) or rather marital law, is an issue, just like children, financing public infrastructures, welfare, military, and many things more, every especially tax paying legal citizen with a vote has the right to be vocal about it.
For most of your life, you belittled marriages and compared wives with prostitutes and maids. You looked down on relationships based on committment. Then you got sick and old.
Yes, you and Trump have very much in common.
To love and respect the partner as an equal, and to share responsibility, this is something you both never will be able, nor are you even capable to comprehend what this means, Reggie. That’s a marriage worth the name.
No, Gunda, I will continue to point out that low birthrates could be a problem (although for many years now, I’ve suggested that tech will solve it). What I won’t do is tell individuals whether they should procreate, and I won’t judge them for not procreating, which is what you’re doing with marriage.
I have never “belittled marriages and compared wives with prostitutes and maids”. I think of SOME wives as prostitutes, the first lady of the USA being one. My personal desire for marriage is relatively new, I admit, about 15 years, now. People’s opinions evolve.
You should try to get married, Gunda. Life is way better when you’re not doing it alone.